I think most TTCers have experienced people who make seriously insensitive comments. I seem to store up the comments and ruminate about them.
This week, one of my employees was talking about how her grandson has gotten too old to hunt Easter eggs. So she pointedly said to me, “You need to hurry up and have a baby for us to hide eggs for.” My response, ” Well B, that’s not going so well.”
At my last therapy appointment (as in last ever with that woman), my therapist asked me if I could see my miscarriage for the blessing it is. I know her thought process here but I hardly see losing my only real chance at a biological child as a “blessing.”
Not long ago my mom suggested that “We’ll just have to see what God’s will is” about my TTC efforts. In her WASPy way, she was implying that I am throwing away our money because God does not want J and I to have a child. Thanks Mom. I am all warm just feeling your complete support.
Lastly, I was speaking with an old friend. She asked about our baby making efforts and I told her. She said, “Have you ever thought about adoption?” My internal response, “Adoption? What’s that? Never heard of it before! You mean that J and I can just get a newborn baby tomorrow without intense heartache? Well sign me up!” My external response, “Kinda.”