You know all those tasks you think… Oh I need to get to that soon.. Yet soon is always a good week away from the important thing you are doing (like watching Glee)? Well, I know how to cure all that lack of motivation. Simply have the love of your life get scarily near delivery of your twins at 29 weeks. This method will light a large fire beneath your behind. I know because it worked for me!!
The few days Joey spent in the hospital were excruciating for me — she was uncomfortable for other reasons and this happens to be MY blog. Lol. All I could do was 1- watch my sweetie be physically wrecked from all the labor-stopping drugs, 2- read obsessively about twins born at 29 weeks 3- imagine how we would manage all the potential medical issues 4- reassure Joey that everything would be fine (yes, on occasion I am a big fat liar) 5- ruminate about all the things I needed to do at home. Wash, rinse, and repeat for the entire 5 days we/ she spent in labor and delivery. Incidentally, no one is actually very good at telling you what preterm labor feels like. “go to the ER with more than 6 contractions in an hour” is the most behaviorally specific description we got. Problem is that no one was very clear on whether that meant painful contractions or simply noticeable contractions. And then there was the talk about feeling “period-like cramps” or “pressure.” And my least favorite was, “if something just feels different, come on on.” Well friends, the truth is that small women pregnant with twins have contractions ALL THE TIME. Being 8 months pregnant leads to pressure, cramping and certainly “feels different.” So knowing when to head to the hospital is maddeningly vague.((incidentally on our latest L &D trip on Sunday, all was pronounced to be great and the staff was super supportive in saying that we did the right thing to have Joey checked out– we still felt a bit like nervous nellies though))
But I have digressed, tasks around the house was my original topic. Suffice it to say that now that Joey is at home, I have meals in the freezer, all baby clothes are washed and put away, all cloth diapers have been hot-washed 3x sans detergent, the nursery closet is re-organized and the nursery is ready for babies. Also my house is very very clean. I am beginning to feel that inner invisible fist around my heart unclenching a bit more each day.
As for Joey, she is a champ! She follows doctor’s orders and lays around all day, everyday. This is a deceptively hard task as it makes everything ache and there is a fine balance between staying off your feet enough for the cervix and too much leading to blood clots. Bedrest is not for wimps.
As for the babies– growing beautifully! They weigh 4 pounds and 4 lbs 1 oz. They are active and healthy. They even have hair on the ultrasound. And tomorrow they will cross the 32 week milestone. Cue the celebration as this is a big deal I was afraid we would not manage. Next goal: 34 weeks– when twins have comparable long term outcomes with 36 week babies. The happy upside of our L&D trip 2 days ago is that Joey now is negative for fetal fibronectin– suggesting the babes will stay put for another 2 weeks.
Breathing is getting easier. Next task: catch up on blog commenting.