My lovely, strong and generous partner (Joey) and I have been together for 7 years. We are both 37-year-old Southern lesbians who tried to have a baby for 3 years. I was first in line because I really really wanted to carry a child. Joey just wanted to be a parent without all the biological fuss.
Because our life needs to be fraught with irony, I am utterly infertile. I did 3 IVF cycles (1 m/c and 2 BFNs) and 1 donor egg cycle (again BFN).
So Joey stepped up to the plate. She carried our twin boys though a rough, nausea-filled pregnancy that ended in pre-eclampsia. Our boys were born at 34 weeks and they are everything we hoped for. Parenthood: not what we expected. We are learning how to be mothers to twin boys and we’d still like to maintain some zen in the process. This is not quite the path we expected and we are learning to welcome the now with open arms (and leave behind regrets).